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Title: What is a Shame & Blame Curse in recovery?
Author: Fraser Trevor
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What is a Shame & Blame Curse in recovery? Definition of a Shame Curse and the labelling that goes with. My name is and I am.....then...
What is a Shame & Blame Curse in recovery? Definition of a Shame Curse and the labelling that goes with. My name is and I am.....then the shame label.Constant repetition cements the curse and the label into place.

A shame curse is strong messages of rejection and negation by a significant group - one's family or peers or a fellowship. The words and behaviour of this referencing group has the same effect as a curse because one is forced to a negative belief by the way you are treated. Ultimately, it leaves one with the feeling that one does not have the right to exist - what we mean by shame & Blame.

A family (church, work place, school or village) throws a 'shame & Blame curse' when they treat a person as if they do not belong. Sometimes the youngest child is given no voice in family matters even when they grow up. There opinions, decisions and wisdom is given no value, weight or honour.

Being treated by a referenced social group as if you did not belong, with little or no say and very little honour or value is the shame curse in action. It is a failure of love. It is a failure to uphold us, encourage us and love our to life.

The shame curse is a message from those who should by life-giving; instead they send a message of disease and death. Shame curses send messages to the target victim. Whether intended or not the message is to die rather than to live. Shaming is a death curse whose poison brings a person down and 'curses' them to less than the free life that the ten stages brings and the child within intends.

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